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Being kinder to myself

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We are literally our own harshest critics. We let ourselves get away with nothing. We highlight every single one of our flaws, our errors, our wasted time or opportunities. We give everyone else a break, blame their rubbish onto other things and make excuses for them.

I could be kinder to myself, I’m already aware that my harsh comments or my unflattering opinions can hurt others if taken to heart …yet I do it to myself on a daily basis.

Currently I am trying to not apologise for things that don’t need apologies.  Earlier today I apologised for crying to someone,  then I instantly corrected myself to -“thank you for your patience, I’m having a bad day”

They said ‘that’s OK we all have them’, this answer sat better with me than all the “it’s ok, no need to apologise” replies I had from my ‘sorrys’, and I didn’t put myself down in the process, or trivialise my emotions….crying is a human emotion, that shows I’m expressing big emotions, that are busting to get out. I should never apologise for having them, they’re mine so I’m gonna own them!

So kinder to myself it is!

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2 responses to “Being kinder to myself”

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    Bob Lynn

    Susie, this is quietly powerful. Reframing “sorry” to “thank you” protects dignity and builds steadier self‑worth; it shifts attention from fault to connection, which often invites kinder responses from others too. What is unfolding here is self‑compassion in action: mindfulness of feelings, common humanity, and self‑kindness – skills shown to steady motivation and reduce harsh self‑criticism over time. Small repetitions matter: naming the feeling, offering warmth, and choosing gentler words can lower anxiety and increase resilience without slipping into self‑indulgence. Keep going – owning tears is owning truth, and that is a grounded form of courage.

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      Susie

      Thank you, I always put it down to be terribly English and apologising for absolutely everything, even when someone bumps into you , we brits say sorry for them bumping into us. My enlightenment in the subject has allowed me to reframe it into a positive moment, that’s sits better in my soul ☺️

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